Some birds aren’t meant to be caged, their feathers are just too bright… (2mins Read).

This is a line from the great movie  – The Shawshank Redemption.

Yes, our feathers are too bright for the mundane or to be caged in one way or the other. Life like nature has a way of getting one over us and can throw you off-balance if care is not taken. It is almost like ‘life’ dares us to reveal our true nature, our innermost characters are revealed. Life is saying ‘I am the Boss’ show me what you got!

The question I ask my ‘inner’ self is, how do I keep my eyes fixed on the bigger prize whilst the boat of life is being rocked? How do I navigate my way through the rough edges of life when life itself is refusing to budge or to cut me some slack?

We have come to the mid point of this eventful year thus far, a lot has happened in the last six months politically and socially, the resulting impacts will reverberate for many years to come. If we are a corporation such as Amazon or Coca Cola, we will be comparing TY vs LY, we will be assessing and reviewing our corporate strategies against the 1st and 2nd quarter results. This is when management will be thinking of introducing new products into the market or downsizing, or as in Brexit; thinking of offshoring job functions (they usually get this wrong most of the time).

What is my point here?

My emphasis is that we must always review our plans and goals just like a corporation does on a regular basis. In my case at the beginning of this year, I set my goals to learn and acquire new skills of which I did (to gain practical work experience in project management/business analysis). I learnt new skills and tools and gained insights to the importance of data and evolving technology. It has helped me in my current role and projects including creating this blog space, but I must admit I did took my eyes off the ball for a while when ‘life’ says I am still here.

There lies the crust of my searching question again  – how do we reach our set goals and visions whilst life challenges still persists ( I would like to learn from you – please comment below).

I was having this discussion with one of my colleagues and she asked me to check out ‘Jay Shetty’ online – and in one of the videos he illustrates that to be successful in achieving your goals, you must spend and invest most your time i.e 80 – 100% on the area you are ‘most’ good at, which leads to the quadrant of success.

Enjoy the link below…

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My City of London: Overcoming Stalemate (5mins Read)

The very sad incidents over the last month has cast long dark shadows over my city of London, and the moods of the people have generally been muted. The fire at Grenfell Tower has shown the dark underbelly of a first class city, in which the local authority response was ineffectual in the early days, however the response of the public was beyond commendable.

We have all come together in small and big gestures of love and community esprit to send a message of our unyielding standing and stance with those who made it out of the inferno. My heart still bleeds for all the unaccountable victims of this tragedy, and others at the Manchester Arena, London Bridge and Finsbury Park mosque.

These occurrences have exposed deep issues within our communities. As it can be in any relationship there will be conflicts, and measures must be taken to resolve these issues.

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I will make my assertions clear below using marriage as an analogue  –

Marriage as well as society are interchangeable, they are birds of the same feathers and both goes through a period of togetherness and conflicts at times.

I grew up in and around West London back in the noughties – a few miles from Grenfell, and it had an atmosphere of tolerance, in comparison to other parts of London. This acceptance and inclusion was partly praised for a lot of the media houses (such as the BBC, EMI) established in the area which brings a lot of liberal minds into the community and also does employs a number of locals of which I was a beneficiary (I spent two years at the Beeb working on the production of factual programmes such as Top Gear amongst many others).

In addition, there are the wealthy enclaves in the surrounding areas of Chiswick, Fulham, Holland Park, Notting Hill to Bayswater and it does not matter where you are from in the area, you felt like you belong. We all ate Jerk chicken at the Ochi take-away in Shepherds Bush after a night of clubbing in the West End, after getting off Bus 94 from Regents Street or 207 from Trafalgar Square (oh I must say this was also the best era of music, we are talking about the like of Jodeci, LLCoolJ, Mary J Blige, Oasis, Blur and the likes, even the Spice Girls) and no one goes into the club strapped with a weapon. How times have changed right!

What is my point here? Things have changed, attitudes have changed, the people have changed; partly blamed on new arrivals and most importantly gentrification. Gentrification in the sense, the BBC has moved on (to Salford City, Manchester) and sold the studio and offices for conversion to luxury flats and boutique hotels. What is the cost-benefit analysis to the residents by having luxury hotels on their doorsteps instead of a behemoth employer like the BBC? What is the loss to the residents of White City, Harlseden, Latimer Road, North Acton, Ladbroke Grove who rely on the BBC for their sustenance. Yes, other companies have shoot up in the area, but cannot be compared to an employer that employs thousands of residents.

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What can the local authorities do and the government at large, (as in marriage) we cannot avoid conflict, we cannot ignore the issues otherwise the ‘sleeping lion’ will lay for a while until resurrected into something more destructive as we have witness recently. We must stop looking at the less priviledge as a nuisance to the system, those who have (the have-yachts) must invest locally and share their resources with the locals to resolve conflicts and use their resources to build a prosperous local economy.

We must note that the people are only reacting in the way they are (as anyone would with this senseless loss of souls), because they felt no empathy from the authorities. Empathy allows us to develop deeper understanding and insights into people’s daily issues and to come up with good lasting solutions.

In conclusion, local and national unresolved issues must be dealt with promptly through the set up of community-led public inquiry. Trust must be restored, it cannot be artificial. Real trust is what the local residents needs at this point.

This is my tribute to those who lost their lives in this horrible tragedy.

Please share your thoughts in the comment page

I wish you peace…

 

 

 

Tips for men: A good woman, a better man.

Hmmm I hear you say… I’ve been looking to bring this notion into the public light. Why would I utter such a bold statement?

I happened to work in an industry where the ratio of women to men is 10:1 (lucky dude I hear you say). I am fortunate, in the sense that it has helped me in a number of ways to understand women and issues that concerns women in society at large. Let me make my assertions below –

Women talk or should I say women can talk! In my office, my ear is constantly ringing about delicious topics such as how well the date went with John over the weekend, fake eyelashes, glutes expansion, brazilian hair or which make-up brand is better suited to different shades and texture of skin types. In fact, I have a product in mind to launch to serve this growing market.

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How has it made me a better man? It has in the sense that on occasion where I have been invited to contribute to their discussions, I have to do it from an empathetic standpoint. I cannot be too macho about it or too dismissive, if for example it is an emotional topic such as a relationship that has gone sour or other emotive subjects.

It has allowed me to be respectful towards women (1) because I value their strength and assertiveness (maybe I have a twinkle for a woman with power perhaps) (2) some are go-getters (some have moved from small towns or other restrictive countries and they are now thriving in the big city with a prosperous career which in turn challenges us men to want to continue to flourish as well and to attain more).

How has this knowledge translated or transplanted into my own relationship? Simply, I have learnt to just ‘shut up’. Truly, I have learnt to listen and to be more understanding; and a realisation that men don’t always have the answers. To get the best out of a relationship (and working with women is to work collaboratively), you need to mull over the details and figures, sometimes it can lead to ‘analysis paralysis’ but it is well intended as we must avert risks at all costs.

It has helped me to be a well-rounded individual thus allowing me to broaden my horizons and learn about other topics. For example, I recently encouraged all women in my circle of influence to vote in the UK elections, as I made a point that women were not allowed to vote in the UK until 1918 (1920 in the US, and African-Americans not until 1965).

To conclude, I will state that my masculinity has not been diminished with the rise of feminism rather it has been enhanced by it, as it has allowed me to value my own strength and my own vision. Society will be better served if we sometimes look at issues from a woman’s viewpoint.

I am a father to two boys and I am raising them on this personal motto: To respect a lady is to respect yourself.

Do you have a contrary view? All feedbacks, share, comments are welcome.

 

 

Perfection is like chasing the horizon. Keep moving Auntie Theresa!

I believe the title above sums up the mood for this unnecessary snap election. In the last two years, the same party has thrown away its landslide victory and advantages for getting the nation’s finances in balance by calling for a referendum in the midst of austerity cuts and so on.

GENERAL ELECTION: HUNG PARLIAMENT CONFIRMED

PARTY SEATS +/- VOTES VOTE SHARE % +/-
Conservative 316 -12 13,568,716 42.4 +5.5%
Labour 261 +29 12,824,737 40.1 +9.5
SNP 35 -21 977,569 3.1 -1.7
Lib Dem 12 +4 2,327,425 7.3 -0.5
DUP 10 +2 292,316 0.9 +0.3
Plaid Cymru 4 +1 164,466 0.5 -0.1
Green 1 0 523,269 1.6 -2.1
UKIP 0 -1 593,852 1.9 -10.8

My opinionated view is that the conservative party should have embarked on policies that will impact positively on people’s lives rather than seeking a huge mandate to govern or focusing too much on the Brexit negotiations (a soft brexit will be better for the country in the long run!). The populace understood that cuts have to be made, but introducing policies for the elderly to sell their homes to pay for an inefficient social care package amongst a badly rushed-out manifesto is a stretch too far.

What lesson(s) can be drawn from this result – I will advise the government that we are not going to get the perfect Brexit deals as there are other external factors that are now in play. First of all, we have a pro-EU leader in France, meaning that there is no #Frexit, nor #Grexit on the table. It appears that EU leaders are now waking up from their grandeur Brussels palaces that the people will vote against unpopular policies in individual nation states. Secondly, Trump America’s isolationism (Paris Climate Accord – a case in point) will strengthen EU leaders to get their house in order as recently noted by Chancellor Angela Merkel about the US reliability as an ally.

Other interesting notions I have drawn is that, as in in life as well as in politics, you cannot count yourself out of the game. No matter your current circumstances, you never know what tide will carry you in or out of the sea of life.

As emphasised by a man that I adore, Warren Buffet (the Sage of Omaha) said “Only when the tide goes out do you discover who’s been swimming naked”The tide has certainly gone out for conservative’s Auntie Theresa. Will Uncle Corbyn be ridden in on a tide of real change and hope. Well, we have to wait for the next elections maybe in six months time as I wrote in one of my blogs dated 17th May 2017 – Elections, elections and more elections – democracy galore!

Thank you for reading and have a great weekend…

Football: a unifying game @30,000 feet.

I am writing this blog from the comfort of my seat at 35,000 feet whisking across the Sahara desert enjoying a classic display from #HalaMadrid vs #ForzaJuve. It’s very funny how a football game can become an ice-breaker amongst strangers. I am chatting to other fellas on the plane I wouldn’t have had the opportunity to share camaraderie and a laugh with (and later sharing business cards).

Sports (football) in general brings out alot of emotions, we are all clapping and cheering on the players on this non-bi-partisan aeroflot. Football (soccer) is a sport accessible to every child all over the world, I think that is why they call it the ‘beautiful game‘.  I am a passive Chelsea fan – congratulations to the EPL champion this season, perhaps I will be writing my next football blog from a Russian city in next year #worldcup – Russia2018, supporting England and all African teams through the stages.

Enjoy a summer fest of sports from Wimbledon to the IAAF championship to the NBA Finals..

Have a great sporting summer.

Dubai, Lagos, Dubai…

Let the adventure begins I’ll say. I’m switching off from the hustle and bustle of daily life in central London. I want to cool down my nerves with some real authentic cuisines, some tropical breeze, some necessary vitamin D on the skin, and also to marvel at the increasing architectural skyscrapers of Dubai​ that has shoot up from the desert in the last 30 years (a vision to turn a deserted desert into an important tourism hub in the world. I think they have succeeded, as I watched with bemusement of different languages filling the air. It got me thinking, how would my vision impact the world positively as they have done here through job creation and other benefits for the populace.

Research has concluded that it is not the length of duration or the destination itself that is good for our well-being, but rather the anticipation of the impending travels. It helps to shift our minds from the mundane, the school runs etc.

It allows us to behold the beauty of the universe and creatures accustomed to different regions and climates of the world.

What am I saying? I’m saying go ahead and booked that trip, either a solo trip, with friends or family. It doesn’t have to involve air bounds, it could be a road trip to the next city.

Have you noticed that the very wealthy spending habits has declined on material things, rather they will go on expensive hols to re-charge their batteries, connect with like-minded people and more importantly to create great memories for their friends and families.

I wish you a great summer ahead.

Enjoy! 🙂