Some birds aren’t meant to be caged, their feathers are just too bright… (2mins Read).

This is a line from the great movie  – The Shawshank Redemption.

Yes, our feathers are too bright for the mundane or to be caged in one way or the other. Life like nature has a way of getting one over us and can throw you off-balance if care is not taken. It is almost like ‘life’ dares us to reveal our true nature, our innermost characters are revealed. Life is saying ‘I am the Boss’ show me what you got!

The question I ask my ‘inner’ self is, how do I keep my eyes fixed on the bigger prize whilst the boat of life is being rocked? How do I navigate my way through the rough edges of life when life itself is refusing to budge or to cut me some slack?

We have come to the mid point of this eventful year thus far, a lot has happened in the last six months politically and socially, the resulting impacts will reverberate for many years to come. If we are a corporation such as Amazon or Coca Cola, we will be comparing TY vs LY, we will be assessing and reviewing our corporate strategies against the 1st and 2nd quarter results. This is when management will be thinking of introducing new products into the market or downsizing, or as in Brexit; thinking of offshoring job functions (they usually get this wrong most of the time).

What is my point here?

My emphasis is that we must always review our plans and goals just like a corporation does on a regular basis. In my case at the beginning of this year, I set my goals to learn and acquire new skills of which I did (to gain practical work experience in project management/business analysis). I learnt new skills and tools and gained insights to the importance of data and evolving technology. It has helped me in my current role and projects including creating this blog space, but I must admit I did took my eyes off the ball for a while when ‘life’ says I am still here.

There lies the crust of my searching question again  – how do we reach our set goals and visions whilst life challenges still persists ( I would like to learn from you – please comment below).

I was having this discussion with one of my colleagues and she asked me to check out ‘Jay Shetty’ online – and in one of the videos he illustrates that to be successful in achieving your goals, you must spend and invest most your time i.e 80 – 100% on the area you are ‘most’ good at, which leads to the quadrant of success.

Enjoy the link below…

Tips for men: A good woman, a better man.

Hmmm I hear you say… I’ve been looking to bring this notion into the public light. Why would I utter such a bold statement?

I happened to work in an industry where the ratio of women to men is 10:1 (lucky dude I hear you say). I am fortunate, in the sense that it has helped me in a number of ways to understand women and issues that concerns women in society at large. Let me make my assertions below –

Women talk or should I say women can talk! In my office, my ear is constantly ringing about delicious topics such as how well the date went with John over the weekend, fake eyelashes, glutes expansion, brazilian hair or which make-up brand is better suited to different shades and texture of skin types. In fact, I have a product in mind to launch to serve this growing market.

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How has it made me a better man? It has in the sense that on occasion where I have been invited to contribute to their discussions, I have to do it from an empathetic standpoint. I cannot be too macho about it or too dismissive, if for example it is an emotional topic such as a relationship that has gone sour or other emotive subjects.

It has allowed me to be respectful towards women (1) because I value their strength and assertiveness (maybe I have a twinkle for a woman with power perhaps) (2) some are go-getters (some have moved from small towns or other restrictive countries and they are now thriving in the big city with a prosperous career which in turn challenges us men to want to continue to flourish as well and to attain more).

How has this knowledge translated or transplanted into my own relationship? Simply, I have learnt to just ‘shut up’. Truly, I have learnt to listen and to be more understanding; and a realisation that men don’t always have the answers. To get the best out of a relationship (and working with women is to work collaboratively), you need to mull over the details and figures, sometimes it can lead to ‘analysis paralysis’ but it is well intended as we must avert risks at all costs.

It has helped me to be a well-rounded individual thus allowing me to broaden my horizons and learn about other topics. For example, I recently encouraged all women in my circle of influence to vote in the UK elections, as I made a point that women were not allowed to vote in the UK until 1918 (1920 in the US, and African-Americans not until 1965).

To conclude, I will state that my masculinity has not been diminished with the rise of feminism rather it has been enhanced by it, as it has allowed me to value my own strength and my own vision. Society will be better served if we sometimes look at issues from a woman’s viewpoint.

I am a father to two boys and I am raising them on this personal motto: To respect a lady is to respect yourself.

Do you have a contrary view? All feedbacks, share, comments are welcome.

 

 

Dubai, Lagos, Dubai…

Let the adventure begins I’ll say. I’m switching off from the hustle and bustle of daily life in central London. I want to cool down my nerves with some real authentic cuisines, some tropical breeze, some necessary vitamin D on the skin, and also to marvel at the increasing architectural skyscrapers of Dubai​ that has shoot up from the desert in the last 30 years (a vision to turn a deserted desert into an important tourism hub in the world. I think they have succeeded, as I watched with bemusement of different languages filling the air. It got me thinking, how would my vision impact the world positively as they have done here through job creation and other benefits for the populace.

Research has concluded that it is not the length of duration or the destination itself that is good for our well-being, but rather the anticipation of the impending travels. It helps to shift our minds from the mundane, the school runs etc.

It allows us to behold the beauty of the universe and creatures accustomed to different regions and climates of the world.

What am I saying? I’m saying go ahead and booked that trip, either a solo trip, with friends or family. It doesn’t have to involve air bounds, it could be a road trip to the next city.

Have you noticed that the very wealthy spending habits has declined on material things, rather they will go on expensive hols to re-charge their batteries, connect with like-minded people and more importantly to create great memories for their friends and families.

I wish you a great summer ahead.

Enjoy! 🙂

Rolling in the deep… thanks Adele!

Great track from Adele… loved this track back then.

I believe I possess some admirable qualities such as perseverance, ingenuity, hardwork (as we say in London, I’m a grafter mate or a hustler). These strengths also exposed some vulnerabilities in me to be honest. I don’t have a term to ascribe to it, but I’ll try. I realized that I like to have 100% control over a situation and usually falters when I have only a 40 – 50% input to contribute – the missing half can lead to stress and headaches, not to talk of heartaches!

This brings me to the subject of stress. Stress is a silent killer that has been well documented in medical journals. Stress can hide under a fit body composition (32″ waist, shredded torso, tanned skin or those perfect glutes on instagram). It can hide under those perfect smiles, hiding under the chassis of that F-type red Jaguar whilst cruising on the country lanes – oh boy! I can dream.

Whilst creativity and perseverance are good traits, learning to reduce stress and handle trigger points are vital to our long-term health and well-being.

Please kindly refer to the link below for further information if needed and I will very much welcome your feedback on how you handle stress in your lives.

http://www.stepsforstress.org/